Who is over reacting in this situation?

My bf and I have been together about 8 months. We live together and were planning a future together. Problem is that we are both dominate personalities we both are used to doing things our way with little resistance. This has started all kinds of issues. To me, it means we both have to be willing to compromise. I'm definitely willing to meet in the middle on every issue but I will not go more than that. My bf won't even give an inch. So I suggested we have a friend or therapist mediate for us so we can overcome our communication issue. I feel like if we understand each other we won't have a problem moving forward. I lost my job last month so things have been extra stressful, we have been arguing more simply because we are together more and money is tight. My bf shuts down when I try to talk to him, he says that I'm pressuring him when I really only want to work things out. He's not willing to talk with anyone about our communication problem and feels this is wrong bc relationships shouldn't take that much effort. He has no other ideas on what can be done to fix the problem. So I was very upset bc I love him and want us to work. But we can't move forward until we understand each other. He wouldn't even try so I packed my stuff and told him I was going to leave. He told me not to go bc he loves me and wants us to work. I asked if that means he will start to compromise and try. Still, he said he won't talk to anyone and has no answer to how we can improve. So I left, but I took my phone so I could still talk to him. I instantly regretted it, I broke up w him on facebook too which he was furious about.I told him less than 3 hrs later that I was sorry, I made a mistake. Now he said he needs space bc I broke his heart and he wants a future with me but he needs to clear his head. I stayed gone for the night but he still says he needs more time. I pay rent, and I don't think its fair that he won't let me come home. He gets to sleep in a bed I bought while I'm stuck at my dads tiny house on the floor? That's just wrong. So I went to see him in person and he was mad, he wants me to leave for another day at least so he can think and then we can be together. I'm not sleeping on the floor again. I think if he wants that space he can take the couch or go stay with his parents bc at least he will have a bed. Thoughts??